{"id":1080,"date":"2016-02-03T02:03:05","date_gmt":"2016-02-03T02:03:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.onlycasualsex.com\/?p=1080"},"modified":"2015-12-20T19:48:03","modified_gmt":"2015-12-20T19:48:03","slug":"telling-your-friend-you-hooked-up-with-their-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onlycasualsex.com\/blog\/index.php\/telling-your-friend-you-hooked-up-with-their-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Tips For Telling Your Friend You Hooked Up With Their Ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Tips-For-Telling-Your-Friend-You-Hooked-Up-With-Their-Ex\"<\/a>There is an unspoken code among friends that you just don\u2019t date one of their ex<\/a>\u2019s. It\u2019s a good code for specific circumstances but for the rest of us, it sucks. If everyone followed this rule there would a lot of happily married couples that never got married. Break ups hurt. A lot. They hurt in ways you never thought they could hurt. Or they don\u2019t hurt at all and you shrug your shoulders and brush yourself off and pull up Tinder on your smartphone. The point is that not all ex\u2019s are the same. Not all break-ups are meaningful and this code isn\u2019t always useful. <\/p>\n

That being said, the first point of interest in a situation like this is to give it time. Even if it was a nonchalant type of relationship, jumping right into romance of any type with this girl can make you look like a double jerk. Not only to the friend in question but to everyone else; your other friends, family, coworkers. Gauge your friends recovery time and get a feel for how he\u2019s dealing with it. If he\u2019s been in bed for a week and Jim Beam is his new best friend, it isn\u2019t a good time to hook up with his ex. You need to gauge her recovery time as well. The last thing you want to be is the rebound guy. Read The Signs You’re a rebound guy<\/a>. If she\u2019s constantly lamenting the lost relationship or even if she just finds a place to insert memories of him periodically, the time is not right.
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Are You Planning To Hookup Again?<\/h3>\n

Your next step is to gauge your own intent. Yes, I\u2019m serious. Decide what you want from this woman and if it is worth potentially hurting your friend and losing the friendship. Let\u2019s say this friend was your very best friend from childhood. He dated said ex for 8 months and you always liked her. She was funny and gorgeous and always had something interesting to say. Time and again you told your friend how lucky he was to have such a cool chick in his life. Then the break up occurs. You see the ex out at a club and she\u2019s the same fun, interesting girl she always was and you two start vibing on each other. What do you want most from this woman? A casual hook up? A romantic relationship? Decide where you\u2019re going with it and weigh it against the potential hazards of telling your friend. Are you prepared to lose the friendship? Are you prepared to get socked in the nose? Only you know those answers.<\/p>\n

Who Broke Up with Who Is Important<\/h3>\n

Another factor to consider is who broke up with who. If he did the breaking up, it is likely to be less painful. He\u2019s apparently thought it out and decided he didn\u2019t want to be with her anymore. Hopefully that means he doesn\u2019t care who she is dating. If she broke it off, it could be another story. There is always the chance that he was treating her badly in the hopes that she would break up with him but if not, and she broke his heart or took him by surprise, there could be a problem.
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