Everyone, at some point in a relationship, has thought about having an affair. Even if it was just a fleeting thought, it was still there. Most people don’t give it a second thought and go on about their lives, but for some it’s a temptation that keeps nagging them. But, unlike in the movies, starting an affair isn’t as easy as slipping your number to that hot secretary at work, or seducing the cable guy by answer the door in a skimpy outfit. Affairs take time and lots of planning. Being careless and not paying attention to details can snuff out that romantic flame in an instant. If cheating seems like the right path to take, here are five things to consider before starting an affair.

Keep Things Safe

Having an online affair is one of the safest ways to cheat. Anything and everything can be a lie, there’s no psychical contact so it can be argued that it really wasn’t cheating. But, if a real life hook up is the way you want to go, then there are a lot of other things to be considered first. Choosing the right partner is going to be the biggest factor in the affair. If one expects to successfully cheat, then their main worry needs to be things such as sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies. Sexually transmitted diseases are a very real worry about anyone in the dating scene, whether in a relationship already or not. If someone suddenly catches an STD while in a monogamous relationship, it’s going to lead to nothing but trouble. Always use protection when having an affair, and do as much as possible to make sure no issues like this arise. Not only will it be a dead giveaway of the affair, but it will also leave the cheater with something they are potentially stuck with for life. The same goes for unwanted pregnancies. Always make sure that both parties involved are using the necessary protection to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, and that both parties can agree on the outcome should one occur. If a mans mistress accidentally gets pregnant and insists on child support as well as the father being an active part of the kids life, things are going to get tricky. Staying safe and taking the necessary precautions to avoid any unwanted situations will benefit everyone.

Prepare for Someone to Find out

At one point or another, many cheaters are eventually caught by someone. Not always their partner, but sometimes a friend, family member or co-worker. Always be prepared for someone to find out about the affair, and have a good alibi ready. To stay safe, always keep the tone as casual as possible when forced to discuss the affair. If it seems like the cheater isn’t taking thing seriously, it’s possible that others might follow the tone and not judge too harshly.

Be Prepared to Spend Extra Money

No matter what anyone says, cheating will cost you. If a new love arises, spending more money than usual is only natural, whether you want it to be or not. Extra expenses on things like a new phone, new wardrobe, gifts or other little things can certainly add up. The more private things are kept, the more expensive it will be. Some people like to go as far as having separate bank accounts or credit cards. While that is a good idea, it’s just another thing to add to the monthly expenses. While it might drain your wallet in the beginning, it’s something you’ll have to learn to deal with if an affair is something you really want. Like all good things in life, choose quality over cheapness and spend the extra money to keep secrets safe.

If You Have High Anxiety, This Might Not Be for You

Knowing your own limitations is a great thing when starting an affair. Some people simply don’t have the heart to cheat on their partners, and that’s okay. People with high anxiety should avoid activities like this, as it will only add extra stress into their life. Having an affair means becoming good at lying, and feeling comfortable with lying to several loved ones. If this isn’t something you can handle, then an affair right not be the best way to go.

Beware of Vengeful Lovers

Many casual affairs have been brought to a horrible halt because of jealousy. Vengeful lovers are a very real thing to look out for. While this isn’t always the easiest thing to predict when choosing someone to have an affair with, do your best to avoid anyone that has a track record of starting drama once a relationship ends. If things change over time and ending the affair seems like the best option, the last thing anyone wants is to be stuck with someone who can potentially wreck their life. Having a vengeful lover can effect your marriage or current relationship and even your job. Try and connect only with people who are good about keeping things quiet and discreet.

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