Only Casual Sex

Okay, I’m going to get this out of the way now just to save some of you time: I am a 25-year-old guy writing about how to best make your girl climax. Cue the collective eye roll from women around the world. Yes, men absolutely know their own bodies better than women do, and women of course know their bodies better than men. Hell, why do you think so many straight people occasionally go and play for the other team now and then? That being said, this article is less about me thinking I’m a sex god and more about just relaying the advice I have gotten in bed from the women who’ve had enough pity on me to give me a good time. Everyone is different and likes certain aspects of sex better than others. Every woman definitely has some very specific things that they prefer, but in my experience there have been four things that I’ve noticed are consistent with my limited data set. Here are the best ways to make her reach an orgasm.

Don’t forget foreplay

There are times when both of you are just so ready to go that you both tacitly agree to skip the foreplay and just go for the goal. Maybe you’re trying to finish quick in your friend’s bathroom at a party. Most of the time though, you both need a little bit of build-up for things to really get explosive. If you’re not in a rush, don’t act like you’re just trying to get it in quick with zero personal attachment or romance. There might be the occasional woman who prefers that, but for the most part, both men and women benefit from the warm-up act. There’s more to sex than just penetration, after all, and foreplay will help you both out in the end! When she can’t get wetter and you can’t get harder, when you both just can’t stand it anymore, then let the main event begin. Click here to learn why women need foreplay.

Explore her body

Vaginal pleasure is well-known, but sometimes it seems like guys forget that there are tons of other places that feel amazing too, and the only way to find them is to search. Take off clothes slowly and work your way down, and don’t forget to pay attention to her other erogenous zones too. Give some attention to her neck, breasts, nipples, belly button, clitoris, and even a little around the back door too if she seems to like that a little. You’ll never really know what she likes until you give a little attention to these places. Does she like getting her toes sucked? Only one way to find out. Hell, if you can show her some pleasure that she hasn’t experienced before, then those are bonus points for you, my friend.

Listen to what she wants

This was simultaneously the most simple and ground-breaking advice I’ve ever gotten in bed. Most men and women are too shy to tell their partner exactly what they want and end up suffering a little as a result. I’m sure you’ve had some occasions when the girl you were in bed with was handling you all wrong. Hey, she doesn’t have a penis of her own, it’s understandable! But remember that when you’re trying to please her too because I guarantee you are doing something in a way she doesn’t prefer. If she isn’t bold enough to critique you, then find out how she likes it! Maybe don’t directly ask her in the moment, but you can have a conversation late about how to do something specifically to her liking. If you are unsure in the moment, it can be as simple as moving her hands onto your hands, head, hip, wherever and tacitly giving her control over how you do whatever you’re doing.

Keep it fresh

I assume I don’t have to spend too much time on this one, but no one likes boring sex. Especially if this is a longer relationship, it’s important to occasionally toss in some new positions, new foreplay, new locations, or change up the timing, speed, and force of your thrusts. Neither of you should be getting bored during your most intimate exercise.

Don’t be selfish

Every couple is different, but most likely the guy will be ready and able to cum before his girl. If you start to notice a pattern that you cum fast before she even seems like she was getting into it, then it’s time to make some changes. Here are tips for dealing with someone who is selfish in bed. She should absolutely be cumming too, and even better if it’s at the same time that you are. Sex is a team sport, fellas, so don’t be selfish and make sure you do what you have to do to give her a good time as well. If you’re the guy who consistently worries about your own pleasure, then you won’t be having “pleasure” very often.